General Mum stuff

When I was expecting my baby, I was naïve. How could I not have been? I was about to get the job of my life with zero training or preparation. So I prepped as much as I could. I was religious in my research of all things parenthood and filled

Last year started in an epic way. We sold our house, went travelling with our toddler through France and Italy for a few months and then moved into a gorgeous new home. We felt unstoppable. Then everything crashed in a spectacular fashion. We knew my husband, Tim’s kidneys were slowly

We love our kids. Being a mum makes us understand who we could become and gives us the reason to get on with the business of becoming that better version of ourselves. Some days being mum is so incredible it all gets a bit overwhelming. Some days it’s just plain

I started this blog last summer to try and help other mums to find the strength and time to pull themselves up from the bottom of the pile and start looking after themselves a bit better by making time for exercise. I needed to do that very thing myself. Over

I’ve found myself ending up at my toddler’s new favourite soft play at some point during the past nine days out of ten. Partly because he discovered last week when we went for the first time in ages that he thinks it is absolutely the most awesome place in the

Sometimes it’s ok to lower your expectations. This is my mantra right now. I started thinking about this recently when I pretty much reached what felt dangerously like breaking point. I’ve literally been forced to re-evaluate. Life in the Tavender household has been tough in the past six months. Tougher

They say hindsight is a wonderful thing. Becoming a mother has given my life a beautiful purpose. It has brought me more joy and gratitude than I could ever have imagined I’d experience. My son is my life’s single greatest triumph. He is also the single biggest challenge I’ve ever

We’re Ursula and Tim Tavender. AKA Mummy and Daddy to a truly beautiful little soul – Xavier, our two year old boy. Parenthood so far has been full of extremes. Extreme joy, love and pride…and also extreme life adjustment, guilt and worry. Becoming a parent has been – without question

Before becoming a mummy I’d exercise three or four times a week. I did a mix of classes, the gym and swimming. During my pregnancy I took exercise very easy (pilates, swimming, walking) and post-­baby I was looking forward to being able to push myself again! However, there was no way

Ever had a conversation that goes a little like this? “I love being a mummy. But I just wasn’t prepared for just how much I would change.” “I probably shouldn’t say this, but a little tiny part of me misses the old me.” “I had no idea what Mummy Guilt